Hello, friends! Welcome to this month’s meeting of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group. If you’re a writer and if you feel insecure, then this is the support group for you. Click here to learn more!
I’m a sciency kind of person, and I think about the world in a sciency kind of way. But that doesn’t mean I don’t believe in magic. I happen to know that a magical fairy person visits me while I’m writing and helps me with my writing process.
For today’s IWSG meeting, I’d like to turn the floor over to that magical fairy person, a.k.a. my muse. She has something to say, and perhaps it’s something your muse would like to hear.
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My fellow muses, I almost lost my writer. This is a difficult thing to talk about, and a painful thing to talk about, but I cannot not talk about it. My writer almost gave up on writing.
He was under too much stress. He was dealing with too much external pressure. At one point, he said he felt like life was squeezing all the joy and happiness out of him. And every time I whispered in his ear “You should be writing,” I was making the problem worse.
Many muses would make the same mistake, I think. After all, what could be better for a writer than writing? But sometimes we forget just how much stress the so-called “real world” can cause. I thought writing would alleviate some of that stress, but my writer felt like I was just making the stress worse, and he resented me for it. And the more I tried to force the issue, the more I tried to assert dominance over my writer, the worse things got.
Deep down inside, my writer knew I was right. Deep down, he knew that giving up on writing would not make things any better. He’d learned this lesson about himself before, many times over; but he needed some time and some space to learn it again.
So I let my writer stop writing for a while. I let him work on other things, and I let him experiment with other interests and passions. Eventually, he came back to writing. It was inevitable that he would, of course. But in the end, he came back because he wanted to, not because I told him he needed to, and that makes a tremendous difference.
Obviously my writer’s recent stress is not unique. The human world is an unsettling and unsafe place right now, for a multitude of reasons. So if your writer is having a rough time writing, be patient. Give your writer the time and space he or she needs. They’ll come back when they’re ready, and we muses will be waiting.