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I’m not doing great right now, to be honest. I’m stressed, I’m tired, and I’m unhappy. I wish I could say I’m just having a bad week, but I know the problem runs deeper than that. This has been going on for months now… for years, even. And so now I have finally come to the conclusion that something needs to change.
But what? What is the thing that needs to change? Is it writing? I’ve been reluctant to talk about these something-must-change feelings with anyone I know in real life because most of the people I know in real life are quick to tell me that writing is the problem.
“You should take a break from writing,” they’ll say. But that’s like telling me to take a break from breathing. “Maybe you should try a different hobby,” they’ll say, as if writing is just a hobby to me. One family member keeps asking me “Have you considered writing smut?” which… actually, that might be one of the few people I know I.R.L. who gets me.
Something must change. Something is going to change. I’m going to make it happen. But first, I’m making two quick promises to myself:
- I will not rush into anything, and…
- I will not sacrifice my writing (or my art).
This post is not me looking for advice. I’m not writing this for my own benefit but rather for the benefit of anyone else who’s having these something-must-change feelings. Don’t get me wrong: these are good feelings to have. These feelings can be the beginning of a new and better life.
But saying that something needs to change does not mean that everything needs to change. Before you do anything rash, before you go upending your whole life, decide for yourself what’s really important to you. Decide for yourself what you can and cannot afford to change (and do not allow other people to decide that for you).
For me, the things I cannot afford to change are my writing and my art. And for you, those things are…