I’ve known people who chased a dream and made themselves miserable in the process. When they finally gave up on that dream, it was a relief—both for them and for all the people in their lives who loved them. I sometimes wonder if I should follow their example. On rough writing days (or rough writing weeks, months, years…), I sometimes wonder if I ought to give up on my writing dreams.
Except writing is not a dream for me. It’s a passion. Let me explain. For the purposes of this blog post, I’m going to define a dream as an end goal that you really, really want. As an example, I really, really want to go to space. I think that would be an amazing experience! But I’ve read enough astronaut autobiographies to know that I do not want to do all the hard work it takes to get myself to space. Chasing that dream would make me absolutely miserable (miserable enough that I’d probably fail the psych tests and be disqualified from spaceflight, anyway).
But writing? Writing is a passion. What I mean by that is that I am excited about the work itself, not the end goal. Getting my stories published would be nice. Winning lots of awards and making lots of money would be cool. Knowing that complete strangers are reading and enjoying my work would be great! But none of that motivates me to sit down and do my writing day after day. The process of putting words down on paper—that, in and of itself, makes me happy. Even if I never get published, even if no one ever reads my stories, even if I never get any recognition or accolades at all… I still want to do my writing.
Dreams still matter. They tell you something about who you are. My dream of going to space gives me a pretty big hint as to what I should write about. But it is absolutely okay to give up on a dream. Just don’t give up on your passions.
Today’s post is part of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group, a blog hop created by Alex J. Cavanaugh and co-hosted this month by Janet Alcorn, T. Powell Coltrin, Natalie Aguirre, and Pat Garcia. If you’re a writer and if you feel insecure about your writing life, click here to learn more about this amazingly supportive group and to see a list of participating blogs.









